Im not here to say we are perfect. We have our entire lives together to work everyday at being the best versions of ourselves for each other. Hopefully I can get real for a second and share with you what is working for us!
The best parts of a relationship are the easy times: when you and your partner are communicating and expressing your passions but it is not always sunshine. You might not be on the same wave length all the time. What we have learned how to do well is effectively communicate when things get cloudy.
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There is a time and a place for everything. Understanding timing is key. There are so many times (and I definitely learn the hard way) I want to just say what is on my mind. But ask yourself a few things? Is NOW a good time? Can it WAIT?
Next be aware of your word choices. Pre-empt what you're about to say "this might come off as ... I don't know how else to say this ... this could be just me ..." This is key to separate emotion from facts. Perception is reality but is how you are perceiveing things differnt from others?
Lastly write it out. It is always good to get things on paper. I used to write myself letters (to my intuition) and re-read to find answers or separate emotions from facts. Jose and I discovered a template for a relationship journal that helped us overcome a few obstacles in our relationship. Simple questions that don't require you to overthink any answers. We would each write our answer in private and read what the other wrote to really "hear" each other. Often times we didn't have to "talk" to be heard.
Our story is one we learn lessons from everyday and we would love to hear about any lessons you have learned too. Comment them bellow and share this if it helps!